Understanding Bullying: What It is and How to Deal With It
Did you know that 1 in 5 students experience bullying? That's a lot of students dealing with something they shouldn't have. The tricky part is most of the time, they don't realize that they're being bullied, and when they do, most people don't know how to stop it.
Bullying is not as simple as one might think; it actually comes in many forms, and it is not limited to being pushed in the hallway. Bullying can also come in subtle and sneaky ways; it also happens online. So here's everything you need to know about what bullying is, the different types, and what you can do if you or someone you know is dealing with it.
What is Bullying?
At its core, bullying is about power. Bullying happens when someone repeatedly causes harm, harasses, or threatens another person who can't easily defend themselves, But keep in mind that not every mean comment or bad joke is bullying. To assess this kind of action, there are three things to consider:
- Harm: The words or actions cause physical or emotional pain.
- Unfair match: The bully has more power in some way, for instance, in numbers, popularity, and influence.
- Repetition: The harm happens more than once, not just a single lousy interaction.
The 4 Main Types of Bullying
1. Verbal Bullying
This type of bullying is exactly what it sounds like—name-calling, insults, threats, and teasing. It could be someone making fun of the way you talk, your appearance, or even the things you like or don't like.
What is verbal bullying?: This type of bullying extends to any spoken or written words that mean to hurt or intimidate others. Keep in mind that even if it's phrased as a joke, remember that words have power and can stick with someone for a long time.
2. Physical Bullying
This is the most obvious type since it can involve pushing, hitting, tripping, hair pulling, or damaging someone's belongings.
What is physical bullying?: It is a type of bullying that causes someone to bodily harm or threatens violence.
This type of bullying can be severe, and schools usually take it more seriously than others. So, if you're in a situation where you feel unsafe, tell a teacher, counselor, or a trusted adult ASAP.
3. Social Bullying (a.k.a Relational Bullying)
This type of bullying is more subtle compared to the others; this type of bullying is more subtle compared to the others, but it can hurt just as much as hard as physical or verbal bullying. Social bullying is when someone damages your relationships or reputation on purpose.
What is social bullying?: This includes things like spreading rumors, excluding someone from a group, or embarrassing them in public.
This type of bullying is typically seen in friend groups, and it can make schools feel lonely and isolated.
4. Cyberbullying
Bullying can also be found virtually through gaming chats, social media, and even group texts. Cyberbullying includes things like sending mean messages, spreading rumors online, impersonating someone, or posting embarrassing photos online.
Can you press charges for bullying?: In some cases, the answer is yes. This is especially true if threats, harassment, and stalking are involved. Also, keep in mind that laws vary in different states, but cyberbullying can have actual legal consequences.
5. Microaggression
Bullying doesn't have to be outright mean—it can also be subtle, backhanded, or disguised as a "joke." These are called microaggressions; they might be small but hurtful actions or comments that target someone based on their religion, race, gender, disability, or other personal traits.
What is microaggression?: It's a comment, action, or behavior that may seem small but reinforces stereotypes or discrimination.
Examples of microaggressions include:
- Consistently mispronouncing someone's name after being corrected multiple times.
- Saying, "You're really smart for a girl," or other backhanded compliments.
- Making assumptions based on race, gender, religion, or background.
Microaggressions might not seem like "real" bullying at first, but these types of aggression can build up over time. They can make people feel disrespected, excluded, and frustrated. If you notice microaggression, speaking up and calling them out is essential.
The Effects of Bullying
Bullying is not just something anyone should go through. It can seriously affect mental health, self-esteem, and even school performance. Students who are being bullied struggle with depression, anxiety, and loneliness. Focusing on school is hard when you're constantly worried about being made fun of or excluded.
In extreme cases, bullying has led to eating disorders, self-harm, and even suicide. So, if you know someone who is struggling, reach out to a teacher, counselor, or a trusted friend.
What to Do If You See Bullying
1. Don't be a bystander
Have you ever heard of the bystander effect? This is when a group sees something terrible happening, but no one does anything because they assume someone else will.
If you see bullying happening, say something; even if you don't feel comfortable confronting the bully, you can:
- Support the victim: A simple "Hey, are you ok?" It can go a long way.
- Tell a trusted adult: It's worth reporting even if it seems small.
- Distract the bully: Change the subject or interrupt to take the focus off the victim.
2. If you're being bullied, know that it's not your fault
In this situation, it's easy to wonder why this is happening to me? But bullying says more about the bully than it does about you. Here are some things that you can do.
- Don't react emotionally: Bullies want a reaction, so stay calm if you can.
- Keep records: If it's online, screenshot. If it's in person, you can record what's happening or write it down.
- Tell someone you trust: A teacher, counselor, or friend can help.
- Stay close to supportive friends: Bullies tend to target people who are alone.
How can Park Tutoring Help You Build Confidence?
Here at Park Tutoring, we believe that confidence is key to standing up to bullying and creating a positive school experience. When you feel capable, smart, and supported, it's easier to ignore the haters and focus on your success.
Our tutors don't just help with school subjects—we also help students build self-esteem by improving their academic skills and encouraging them every step of the way.
Struggling in your academic subjects? We've got your back. Feeling like you don't fit in? Tutoring can help you gain confidence. Need a supportive space? Our tutors foster a judgment-free zone where you can learn and grow.
No one should have to deal with bullying alone, and at Park Tutoring, we're here to support you.
You Deserve to Feel Safe and Confident
Bullying is difficult to discuss, but the good news is that you can do something about it. Whether standing up for yourself, supporting a friend, or focusing on your confidence and success, every step matters.
And remember—you are not alone. If you ever need help, don't hesitate to ask.
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